Can I heal myself?

Yes, of course you can! We all heal things within ourselves all the time. We change, we learn and grow and become more of who we really are. But sometimes we are caught in an awkward spot, stuck between a rock and a hard place and can’t find our way out. Maybe you feel like you are caught in the rapids and don’t know which way to turn. Sometimes you need an outside resource person who can help you get un-stuck, someone to help you see the blind spots (which we all have!), someone who provides guidance and support for you to cross the river safely to the other side. Either way, You are the key factor in your own healing, not me or anyone else. Counselors and therapists are facilitators for your healing process.

Do I need a therapist?

Are you regularly or constantly troubled by certain thoughts, moods, or behaviors? Do you experience chronic stress in certain relationships? If so, then you would probably benefit from working with a therapist. Having a counselor or therapist who can meet you where you are, and provide the necessary support and tools you need to reach your goals can make all the difference.

Your needs are important and you deserve to have them met. No man or woman is an island. We all need help from time to time, and it is a mark of courage and insight to ask for help. The truth is, no one heals alone. When you heal, others heal, and the world becomes a sweeter, gentler, and more life-sustaining place.

How can I be sure counseling will help?

Make sure you find a therapist with whom you feel comfortable, who is licensed and credentialed in the areas in which you need support. Talk with them on the phone and/or meet, ask them questions, and notice how you feel in their presence. You can interview more than one therapist before making a decision about whom you want to work with.

Regarding the effectiveness of therapy, frankly, there are no guarantees. Not only does it depend upon the skills of your therapist, but also on your readiness and willingness to take on the tasks of healing; to be an active learner in the therapy process and willing to take responsibility for your results. If things are not proceeding the way you want them to, then discuss this with your therapist. An authentic conversation can often shed light on unspoken concerns and release the logjam blocking your progress.

A successful outcome in therapy varies from person to person and depends upon your personal expectations and willingness to take steps. When I think about success versus failure, I like to remember the singular difference between the runner who crosses the finish line and the one who never makes it. Both practice for hours on the track, though one may practice more than the other. Both fail dozens and dozens of times, falling flat on their faces in the dirt. But the one who succeeds is the one who picks herself up off the ground one more time and keeps on going. That’s it. She keeps on going. She uses her failures as fertilizer for her growth, learning from failure, becoming stronger, more flexible and resilient. She or he is not necessarily smarter or stronger or more talented. She is simply willing to keep on keeping on, one small step at a time. That’s right, it’s all about baby steps. Baby steps really can lead the way to a happier, healthier you and a more fulfilling life. If you are in a healing process right now, remember to give yourself a pat on the back each time you take a step. You are the hero in your life!


For a more structured approach to the question, Do I need therapy? you can go to the Psychology Today website, and take a self-assessment. This assessment is confidential and will give you more information about your symptoms.

If you wish to discuss your concerns or the results
of your assessment, call me at 505-490-2808


“The greatest responsibility you have to yourself is to live life fully,
with passion, according to the desires of your heart and soul.”
Kathleen Hill